I've heard many of times that a person doesn't know love until they've had a child, for it takes loving someone to a new whole level. And, trust me I believe them. As a photographer, I see many new parents in the first week of bearing a child. They each have a new sense of life and love as they hold, gazing at the little blessing God's given them. A parent's love is similar to Christ's fatherly love for us. It is impossible for any of us to understand how great that love is either but I hear being a parent gives us a good idea of how it starts.
The most sensitive relationship a mother can have is with her child. This makes her particularly vulnerable to deception. Satan works hard to promote lies to place mothers in bondage. Many of these lies have become widely accepted in today's culture.
Here is a lie that is a hot topic and very debatable:
LIE: It's up to us to determine the size of our family.
TRUTH: God is the Creator and Giver of life. Anything that hinders or discourages women from fulfilling their God-given calling to be bearers and nurturers of life furthers Satan's efforts schemes and aids his efforts.
The world tells us that children are a burden but God's Word says the complete opposite. Children are one of the greatest blessing He can give to a couple.
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Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
the fruit of the womb a reward.
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Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
are the children[a] of one's youth.
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Blessed is the man
who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
- Psalm 127:3-5
After reading this lie, I was little taken back. Unsure of how exactly to absorb it, I discussed it with my husband. Are we sinning by planning for the "right time" to start a family and for not letting God be in complete control of the process? This concept still isn't crystal clear but after some discussion with the women last night, I feel like I have more of a handle on the statement.
When we first got married, my husband and I chatted about when we wanted to start a family. After prayer and many long chats, we feel like we will know when the time is right when God places it on our hearts. I think it's vital to open our hearts and have this conversation with God. Let Him speak to you and guide you through this process. If we fail to listen to him, that may be sinful but if we involve Him in the process we aren't sinning for family planning.
Every couple has their own reasons for family planning. It may be that you aren't ready financially or haven't settled into a home suitable for raising a family. Whatever your reason may be, it's important that you aren't planning for selfish reasons - you're planning to be responsible and give Him glory.
28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
- Genesis 1:28
God fills our hearts with wisdom to make the right choices. To gather wisdom, we have to spend quality time in prayer. The bottom line is that the creation of life is in God's hands. We don't have control over when that will happen but we can aid in the process by listening to His guidance and determining when that timeframe is. If we rightfully use His wisdom, God will be glorified.
My husband and I cannot wait to be parents someday. We've put our faith in Him and whenever that time comes to start a family, we will be ready! I plan to keep this book in a safe place that I can find in the future. I think it will be interesting to go back and look at how my perspective has changed once I become a mother. Until then, I'll continue my dreaming. :)
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